Are You A Murderer?

Are you a murderer? If you die this moment, will you have committed homicide to the highest degree on your very own dreams and underutilized gifts? Decide today to give life.

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A few weeks ago I read an article that detailed the Top 5 Regrets of the Dying. The number 1 regret was Living a life that was expected of them as opposed to the one they wanted to live. There is a simple formula to live by design. I will clearly detail the instructions.

There is nothing to fear, but fear itself. –Franklin D. Roosevelt

Regrets are fear manifested in its most tangible form.  The great news is that if you are able to read this, you still have time to live the life you desire.

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Make a commitment. What do you want: Romantic love, A firmer bum, To make more money, Meaningful friendships or Better sex?  It is available to you, but you must commit. Tony Robbins says, “There is no abiding success without commitment.”  I believe in the laws of attraction but I do not believe they work with positive affirmations alone. While my explanation may defy the rules of the use of prefixes, Action is the root word for attraction. You must commit to the goal, but most of all you must commit to take action.

Paulo Coehlo in the Alchemist said, “And when you want something, all the universe conspires in helping you achieve it.” Santiago made a commitment to find a hidden treasure located near the pyramids in Egypt and set out to do it. He was alone, had no money, and was chasing a dream, but what he had in his favor was determination. That was all he needed. The comedian, Steve Martin is thankful that, “…persistence is a great substitute for talent.”

Write it down. Committing it to paper makes it concrete. Goal: Firmer Bum in 90 days. You don’t have to know a thing about achieving a firmer bum. A simple Google search can be your best friend. In a fraction of a second, I came up with almost 500,000 results including articles, videos, tips and infographics. If you can find a goal buddy, that’s even better. Success loves company. A goal buddy or support group can help to gently hold you accountable. If this is not available to you, set alerts on your phone to keep you on track with the daily steps of goal attainment

 Take the first step. Inch by inch, it’s a cinch. Create a to do list to break down the larger task at hand. From 10 minutes of research, I found 3 consistent things that I must do in order to give life to this dream:  1.Make some changes to my diet 2.Exercise 3.Make time. “Time, once spent can never be replaced.” –Ben Franklin. Get up 15 minutes earlier, cut back on TV or social media. Reframe your sacrificial thinking. You are opening an opportunity in your time to literally save your butt.

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If you fall, get back up. We have all committed to do something only to have stopped short of the finish line so start with something small and get comfortable with success. I started a 21 day meditation with Deepak Chopra and Oprah. I committed to take 15 minutes out of each morning for 21 days. I completed it. It took 25 days, but I did it. I made a commitment, stuck with it and saw results. If you are not perfect, be gentle with yourself, get back up and start where you left off.

Reward yourself for achieving your goal. This is the fun part. Be certain the reward is something that you will see frequently to remind you of your accomplishment. Buy a scarf or candle. Frame the piece you have been putting off. Paint an accent wall in your room.

Reality is that I am mortal as death is unavoidable. Today, I formally commit to become a proficient snowboarder, finish my drawing, “The Embrace” and learn to play “Walk This Way” on the guitar in 90 days. I refuse to die a murderer.

Talk To Yourself. You May be Crazy if You Don’t.

 As a kid, I had learned, somewhere, somehow that people who talked to themselves were crazy. Fact; I had an aunt that talked to herself from time to time. She didn’t outright speak, she would say things, at an almost inaudible level, which would make you question whether she had said anything at all. I asked my mom if she was crazy and my mother said, “Does she answer herself”? I responded, “No but, at times she does giggle.” To which my mom replied, “Then, it seems as if she is just…happy.”

Genetics are powerful and not easily broken. Each morning I talk to myself; “Shalece, with your smart, beautiful, loving, compassionate and artistic self, what are you grateful for at this very moment?” Then I go on to answer myself, at length. I even giggle- honestly, sometimes I burst out in laughter. Why? Because when I think of all the ways that I am blessed, I can’t help but to be overcome with joy. Since good feelings attract more things to feel good about, I try to do this as often as I can throughout the day. I am doing as my mother said and, “Making myself happy.”

My Affliction:  Delayed Unlearning

For some unknown reason, unlearning doesn’t come easy for me. Specifically, my subconscious seems to be distracted by shiny objects and blinking lights at the hint of me consciously going in a different direction than I was previously programmed.

That said, all my life I have attempted to unlearn conditioned thoughts and ideas that I understand are only culturally or contextually correct. Those things were inculcated into my financial, parental and relationship blueprints. Quotes, motivational books, songs and movies that I watch resonate in my mind years afterward and yet, some of those behaviors remained unchanged. Until I had an epiphany.

When I was a child, talking to yourself meant you were “not all there.” As an adult, I have come to realize that if you fail to talk to yourself, and do it often, you just may go crazy. See, my aunt knew something I didn’t. You control your own happiness. What others think of you doesn’t matter. If you can make yourself feel good, at no one else’s expense, by all means do it. Don’t leave your opportunities to bliss on the table. Be happy now. Just the way you are. Back to the point.

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Talking to yourself is much more important than speaking to others because what you say to others will depend directly upon the conversations you have been having with yourself. We tend to project.

The hat pictured above is an invention made by Kaye Hartman that gave a Ted Talk. She asserts that talking to yourself is so important that this device was created to help you tune in to what you have to say without the interruption of others.  

The best conversations I have ever had with others stemmed from those I first held with myself and usually started with these four questions:

Is what I’m about to say kind? It is true? Is it necessary? Does it improve upon the silence?

Sometimes we need to whisper to ourselves to remind us what not to say. Sometimes we need to make ourselves feel good. Speak positivity, love and light to yourself and that’s what we will receive from others. Go ahead, talk to yourself. With no shame. It’s what will likely keep us away from depression, loneliness and insanity. 


dedication: A large amount of time and effort that someone spends on something.

Your level of success is directly connected to your level of dedication. What have you chosen to dedicate yourself to; your children, spouse, health, higher power, career? Most of us dedicate ourselves to each of these things in some facet.

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This quote rings in my ears every day of my life. It reminds me that every breath I take should be taken with a purpose. The purpose should be towards my ultimate goals for how I define success.

Sometimes circumstances give you the need to redefine your future. Do it. Don’t delay. Redefine and rededicate yourself to it.

Lists are awesome. Create a To Do list every evening based on a regular routine. Here is part of mine:







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Those things are not negotiable. The remainder of the list is based on what else I need to accomplish for the day.

Dedication takes practice. If at first you don’t succeed, try try again. Be flexible. Don’t beat yourself up so you will not attract negative energy to your efforts. Count your accomplishments and learn from your failures then progress. Do not dwell on the fact that you didn’t get something done in the exact time that you intended. Instead figure out the impediment, remove it and try again. This time, more intelligently.

Let motivation be your muse. Whatever gets your mojo going, have it nearby for those times when you feel like stopping. Take a break to recharge. Create a soft time limit on how long you will take your break. Once you are recharged, begin again with renewed vigor.

Why are you willing to dedicate yourself to this journey? Keep a reminder in the forefront of your mind. Never forget it. This is the core of why you need to remain dedicated.

When all else fails, remember the story of the tortoise and the hare. You do not need to be the brightest, fastest or strongest. Dedication takes the place of it. Persist, persist, persist and when in doubt, keep going.






Take Back your Power. Get the Subliminator App.

Everyone has either heard of or seen The Secret. It is a powerful movie. Every time I watch it, I get goosebumps. I’m motivated and filled with power. Throughout, they speak of the power of daily and continuous affirmations. Great news! There’s an app for that- The Subliminator. Check it out:

The Subliminator uses the Set it and Forget it Method. It has several pre-recorded affirmations from weight loss to anger management in male and female voices. More importantly, it has a function that allows you to record your own affirmations, listen to them in a repetitive loop and most of all, play it subliminally with your favorite music!

I listen to my message all day, literally. When I’m cleaning or exercising, it’s playing in the background of my music. When I’m working, it’s right by my side at a whisper. When I’m in the car, It’s on. When I’m out to lunch it’s playing at a very low level. My recorded affirmation is:

I am in complete control of me. I am limitless. I am strong and capable. I am so happy and grateful now that money comes to me in increasing quantities through multiple sources on a continuous basis.

Bob Proctor says we are programmed by the age of 4 or 5 through the messages we receive from our environment subliminally. If you believe that you can be reprogrammed, do it. The Subliminator app is a good place to begin.

Take 12 minutes to look at this video of Bob Proctor and the Forgotten Laws:

Take back your power. Rule your mind, do not let it rule you.

Take control over your Subconscious Mind

Happy Re-Programming!

Who the Heck is Lucas?

Lucas is a method and a really cool name. The Lucas Firm focuses on 3 things and does those 3 things extremely well; Teach Social Selling, Being Social and Targeted Sociability B toB.

FACT:  67%

67% is the proportion of people online that use Facebook based on a Pew Internet Study. This number equates to about 1.6 Billion people worldwide that are not only online but, use Facebook.* If 1% of those people knew your product existed, would they buy it? How about aiming for two hundredths of a percent of that market; around 300,000 people? Could you sell your product to 300,000 people out of a pool of about 1,600,000,000 people?

Take these things into consideration:
  1. What is your current marketing strategy?
    • Strengths
    • Weaknesses
    • Opportunities for improvement
    • Potential Threats
Learn them. You need to know these things. If you don’t know them, make this your opportunity.

 2.   Understand.

  •        Your product. What emotions does it evoke
  •        What you want in exchange for your product
  •        Target market demographics. Who is your Ideal Customer? Develop your Sam.
 This will allow you to effectively Market your product to the people that you want to attract.
3. Communicate.
You’ve gathered valuable information. Now, what are you going to do with it? Take it and betroth it to your Strategy, which should be based heavily in Social Media Marketing to get hold of that 300,000 people just waiting for you to grab their attention. One more step before you get started…
4. Authenticate. 
Keep your message consistent. Whatever you choose to communicate needs to be a combination of what your consumer needs and transparency into who you and your brand are. Always do a check for authenticity before proceeding.
5.  Socialize.
Take what you Learned, the things you now better Understand, Communicate them into consistent goals, plan an executable strategy and Socialize, vigorously. 
This, my friend, is the basis for the Lucas Method. 

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*Based on a Total 2.4 Billion people using the internet as of June 2012